Psychologist Grolnick (Clark U.) admits that she has used controlling behavior with her own children. Drawing on her research watching kids and parents interact under conditions of competitive pressure, she and parenting journalist Seal explain the hardwired and societal sources of such pressure and how to sanely nurture a child's autonomy, competence, and connectedness. They emphasize intrinsic over external motivation. Annotation ©2008 Book News, Inc., Portland, OR (booknews.com)