"He doesn't mean to hurt me-he just loses control."<br> "He can be sweet and gentle."<br> "He's scared me a few times, but he never hurts the children-he's a great father."<br> "He's had a really hard life..." <br><br> Women in abusive relationships tell themselves these things every day. Now they can see inside the minds of angry and controlling men-and change their own lives. In this groundbreaking book, a counselor shows how to improve, survive, or leave an abusive relationship, with: <br><br> ? The early warning signs<br> ? Nine abusive personality types<br> ? How to tell if an abuser can change, is changing, or ever will<br> ? The role of drugs and alcohol<br> ? What can be fixed, and what can't<br> ? How to leave a relationship safely