Eldridge, an adoptee and author who founded an educational organization related to adoption, draws on her experiences and interviews with about 70 adoptees to identify 20 choices they need to make to change their lives. She begins with the story of searching for her birth mother and discusses how adoptees sometimes have a victim mentality, then outlines 20 choices they need to make, such as giving themselves permission to think about birth parents, claiming positive and painful emotions as valid, educating themselves about adoption, taking risks, identifying and processing misplaced anger, creating relationships with other adoptees, freely discussing their birth families with adoptive parents and vice versa, obtaining information about birth families, not letting rejection define them, and moving toward forgiveness. This edition has new material on finding support online and contacting family through social media, and new chapters, including Eldridge's story of reuniting with her birth brother. Annotation ©2015 Ringgold, Inc., Portland, OR (protoview.com)