<p> Until now, we have been taught that forgiveness is good for us and that good people forgive. Dr. Spring, a gifted therapist and the award-winning author of <i>After the Affair</i>, proposes a radical, life-affirming alternative that lets us overcome the corrosive effects of hate and get on with our lives—without forgiving. She also offers a powerful and unconventional model for genuine forgiveness—one that asks as much of the offender as it does of us. </p> <p> This bold and healing book offers step-by-step, concrete instructions that help us make peace with others and with ourselves, while answering such crucial questions as these: </p> <ul> <li>How do I forgive someone who is unremorseful or dead?</li> <li>When is forgiveness cheap?</li> <li>What is wrong with refusing to forgive?</li> <li>How can the offender earn forgiveness?</li> <li>How do we forgive ourselves for hurting another human being?</li> </ul>