<B>Focuses on the only party in a conflict that we have any control over: ourselves</B><p>Conflict is an interactive process--you cannot look at a person who makes life difficult for you without also looking at yourself. While blaming others may lead to short-term relief, it often escalates conflicts and produces long-term damage.<p>And with conflict we must first understand the problem and then take responsibility by changing our own roles. <I>Beyond Blame</I> presents specific advice on conflicts in love, conflicts at work, and what to do when conflicts cannot be resolved.<p>