<P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt; tab-stops: 31.5pt 1.8in" class=MsoNormal><B style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Times New Roman','serif'; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: Times">How do you feel about setting goals?<?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" /><o:p></o:p></SPAN></B></P><P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Times New Roman','serif'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Times New Roman','serif'">I’ve heard people say they feel energized, depressed, confused, terrified, pumped, ambivalent, lost . . . or all of the above. Here’s what I’ve realized:<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Times New Roman','serif'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal><I style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Times New Roman','serif'">Our relationship to success is inside-out. </SPAN></I><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Times New Roman','serif'"><o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Times New Roman','serif'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Times New Roman','serif'">When we make our New Year’s resolutions, bucket lists, big plans, or weekly to-dos, we’re hoping that when we “arrive” we’ll be fulfilled. Our hearts will swell as we cross the finish line, and then we can finally relax and savor our happiness. <o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Times New Roman','serif'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Times New Roman','serif'">Except more often than not, that doesn’t happen. Even when we meet our objectives, we wonder if we aimed too low, or took too long, or if we could have done it better. And when we fall short, we come down on ourselves like a ton of bricks. So we make the next goal, hoping it’ll give us everything the last one didn’t.<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Times New Roman','serif'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Times New Roman','serif'">It’s a self-defeating cycle that’s burning us out. How do we change it?<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Times New Roman','serif'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Times New Roman','serif'">Here’s the whole cosmic, life-liberating revelation:<o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Times New Roman','serif'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal><B style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal"><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Times New Roman','serif'">You’re not actually chasing the goal. You’re chasing the <I style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal">feeling </I>that you hope attaining the goal will give you.</SPAN></B><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Times New Roman','serif'"><o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Times New Roman','serif'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Times New Roman','serif'">Every craving, aspiration, or goal you have—from what you eat, wear, and own, to all the things you want to create or do—is driven by a desire to <I style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal">feel</I> a certain way. That’s it. <o:p></o:p></SPAN></P><P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Times New Roman','serif'"><o:p> </o:p></SPAN></P><P style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt" class=MsoNormal><SPAN style="FONT-FAMILY: 'Times New Roman'